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This is one of the TOUGHEST but also one of the most LIBERATING posts I’ve written so far! I’m breaking a big commitment today. And,

People-pleasing, Perfectionism, Social Anxiety – they have the same roots. Not only that, but they are all self-protective adaptations to an early threat of survival.

Many people will spend their entire lives knowing that they are people-pleasers and inauthentic (disconnected from their core) while also doing what they can to

Most people make weak promises to themselves and others. And they wonder why life isn’t working the way they want. I want to point out

YOU WILL NEVER “GET” THERE You will never arrive! Not at least until you make a decision that you already HAVE ARRIVED! The BIGGEST DRAMA

“Life (and people) should be this way.” There’s a lot of resistance and suffering embedded in the essence of this statement. “This is how it

Perfectionism is a compensation mechanism for not-enoughness (I’m not good enough) Perfectionism is a procrastination tactic Perfectionism is fueled by fear (of judgment, rejection) Perfectionism

I was thinking today about the times in my life when I wanted something substantial, or I had a big goal, and it happened almost

A reminder about how deeply affected we are by the fear of rejection, the fear of not being accepted… I recently had a coaching conversation

[This is long. And, it’s a journal of sorts – for my own clarity and fear alchemy reasons] What I’m about to post below is

If you are in the role of powerfully influencing others (a coach, mentor, guide, intuitive)… The biggest work in your lifetime will be to learn

“Ivan, you should keep your page focused on one topic. Otherwise, you are confusing people about what you are about!” Me: I’m not really interested