You think something went wrong with you in your 40s. The questions that had no answers. The confusion that wouldn’t resolve. The identity that suddenly felt like quicksand. You weren’t malfunctioning. You were in the Tunnel. Here’s what actually happened: For years, you shaped yourself around what others needed. Your parents. Your partner. Your career….
From about 40 to 45, I was confused. Not just “having a rough patch” confused – but questioning everything: my choices, my values, my purpose, who I even was. I tried to go back to the achievement path that had worked before. Couldn’t. I tried to figure out what was next. Couldn’t do that either….
I’ve been sitting with a question I can’t shake: what if the separation we feel from others – especially people we’ve hurt or loved – isn’t actually real? Not as some abstract philosophy thing. As something practical. Something that changes how you show up in conflict, in relationships, in everyday life. So I’ve been exploring…
Last night I was walking by the sea and something hit me. For years – no… more than a decade – I’ve felt like something was wrong with me. Not just for asking questions like “What’s the meaning of life?” but for not having satisfying answers. Especially for not knowing the Truth with a capital…
My son is three and a half. He’s just starting to figure out how life works. And there’s something I desperately want him to know – something my father never told me, something I didn’t discover until I was 50. This isn’t abstract philosophy. It’s about what carries you through decades of feeling like you’re…
This is how radical it is. The mind simply wants to capitulate. Truth (capital T) can be known only by experience. Experience is private and non-reproducible. Talking about an experience is not the experience. Therefore, you can know Truth, but you can never talk or write about it. I’m trying to make the point that…
Everything and anything I can point to is a part of the dream. Everything that can NOT be known is a part of the dream. Everything you can “get” is a part of the dream Everything I say here is a part of the dream. What is “the dream”? What you call your life. Ok….
(There are 3 ways to approach this: 1-overlook it/not read it at all, 2-gloss over it as your mind checks out on every other sentence, and 3-let it penetrate you, take pauses, feel the tension in your mind every time it arises, and come on the other side. If you do 3, you may get…
Do you want to stop suffering? You probably don’t. Because you are addicted to suffering – like almost all of us. But if you do – keep reading… Struggle (challenges, adversity, hardship) is a part of life. Struggle is unavoidable. On the other hand, suffering is entirely optional. We humans suffer for these five reasons:…