3 important LESSONS my son Constantin taught me in his first 2 weeks of life
If I don’t take care of my own needs first I can’t take care of his needs Patience I am not fully healed – I still tend to react in a way that takes away his inborn Authenticity The first lesson is self-explanatory. If I don’t fill my cup first I can’t help him or […]
The 3 Biggest Lessons from the past 12 months with Nat
Yesterday Nat and I celebrated one year as a married couple. I sat down to reflect today… Lesson #1 Have different rules for Her than for the rest of the world! Applying the same rules we have for everyone doesn’t work well in our relationship with our soul partner. Pride, honor, boundaries – these work […]
The difference between Shame and Guilt
Shame and Guilt are the lowest frequencies a human being can experience, lower even than fear and anger. Shame and Guilt are painfully familiar to me as they are to many… maybe to you as well. Shame and Guilt felt almost indistinguishable to me for the longest time. That is until I understood how they […]
Lessons and Wisdom from Mission 1000
The incredible treasures I’m taking with me from Mission 1000. If I could go back I would still do it. A few days ago I shared in a post why decided to discontinue Mission 1000 (my commitment to gift one thousand 30-min coaching sessions in 500 days) after having gifted 305 coaching sessions. That post […]
Today I am breaking a big commitment!
This is one of the TOUGHEST but also one of the most LIBERATING posts I’ve written so far! I’m breaking a big commitment today. And, I’m replacing it with a PROMISE. 10 months ago I committed to gifting 1000 (yes, one thousand) 30-min pro bono coaching sessions in 500 days. To date, I’ve gifted 305 […]
On People-pleasing, Perfectionism and Social Anxiety
People-pleasing, Perfectionism, Social Anxiety – they have the same roots. Not only that, but they are all self-protective adaptations to an early threat of survival. I have been afflicted with all of them myself. And, a big part of my journey was to deal with them. Deal with them how? By accepting them as a […]
The Source Of People-Pleasing
Many people will spend their entire lives knowing that they are people-pleasers and inauthentic (disconnected from their core) while also doing what they can to avoid confronting that knowing. Being a people-pleaser is not shameful. It’s literally a survival strategy. It usually is a result of caregivers who instead of a sense of security instilled […]
The Power of Commitment
Most people make weak promises to themselves and others. And they wonder why life isn’t working the way they want. I want to point out why. I’ll keep this lean and to the point. There are two ways to move towards any desired outcome in life: From being INTERESTED From being COMMITTED The person who […]