You think you wasted your early years. That’s not what happened. While everyone else was sprinting up ladders, you were building three capacities that look like liabilities in the first half of life but become weapons in the second. You weren’t slow. You were loading at high resolution. And high-resolution files take longer to process….
You think you’re still preparing because you’re not ready yet. That’s the lie. You’re not preparing. You’re hiding. And your intelligence is giving you sophisticated reasons to stay hidden. Here’s what’s actually happening: Your mind can simulate outcomes so vividly that the simulation feels like action. You run scenarios twenty moves deep. You spot every…
You think you are behind. You think there is a correct schedule for human development and you missed it. Not true. The conventional timeline is a story told by people who need you to compete in their game. Career by 25. House by 30. Peak earning by 40. This is not a law of nature….
You think the dreams you have at night are an illusion, and this – your waking life – is reality. Wrong. They’re both dreams. Same mechanism. Same mind. You’re just dissociated one level deeper in this one. Last week, I had a dream. My mind created a bomb drone heading straight for me. It also…
You think something went wrong with you in your 40s. The questions that had no answers. The confusion that wouldn’t resolve. The identity that suddenly felt like quicksand. You weren’t malfunctioning. You were in the Tunnel. Here’s what actually happened: For years, you shaped yourself around what others needed. Your parents. Your partner. Your career….
I spent decades thinking it was my job to make myself happy. I was “trained” that way by society and culture (probably as you have been). The responsibility was exhausting. The guilt for failing at it – almost constant. I wasn’t happy even half the time. And I thought something was fundamentally wrong with me…
From about 40 to 45, I was confused. Not just “having a rough patch” confused – but questioning everything: my choices, my values, my purpose, who I even was. I tried to go back to the achievement path that had worked before. Couldn’t. I tried to figure out what was next. Couldn’t do that either….
I often say that I don’t judge others. But, in all honesty, I do judge others. And, that’s okay!