To the point.
You must not "try" to be "you".
You must stop trying to be "you" to be you.
"Do you" - you know that saying?
There's nothing to "do" about being "you".
Babies don't have to "do" anything. They simply "be"...
- without fear of judgment
- without fear of rejection
- without poisoning their enoughness and completeness with self-judgment either
"But, Ivan, it's scary to be you!"
Yes, it is.
Can you handle it?
Do you have the courage?
And, you do have the courage.
...if you remember...