I was thinking today about the times in my life when I wanted something substantial, or I had a big goal, and it happened almost effortlessly.
The times when things happened this effortless way are far less in my life than the times when…
And when things finally happened it was difficult to maintain them that way – they just wanted to return to their prior un-forced condition.
Here’s what I found out when I compared the “effortless way” vs the “resistance way” or “didn’t happen at all way”:
The Big 5
1 -> Obsessive VISION but loosely held
I really, really desired what I wanted but I wasn’t so attached to it that if it didn’t happen it will destroy me. Or I will feel incomplete or diminished in some way. It was a very clean desire – like an obsession without clinging.
2 -> The only big DESIRE at the time
I recalled that whatever objective I had it was the only big objective at the time. My attention wasn’t fractured into many desires that I would give top priority to. Only one desire, only one top priority.
3 -> I didn’t DOUBT it will happen
I simply knew it will happen one way or another. I wasn’t attached to HOW it will happen or HOW exactly it must look. I simply wanted – and was living into – (pay attention to this) how I would feel when it happened.
4 -> I wasn’t APOLOGIZING for what I desired
I wasn’t worrying about inconveniencing others with my requests. I wasn’t apologizing for what I wanted. I didn’t stay in anybody’s way. But, there was not even an ounce of apology about my desire and my staying firm on my way towards it.
5 -> I didn’t have to take all the ACTION
In fact, others took action on my vision more often than I did. This is very important! I didn’t live in the illusion that if my desire were to happen I MUST TAKE ALL THE ACTION to make it happen.