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In this article I will share with you a strategy… Let me change this – THE STRATEGY – how to make sure that next time you start something actually you finish it.
So, here we go…
To refresh your memory a bit the reason why we don’t finish what we start – the only reason – is this: the pain of staying the same, the pain of not changing is not big enough so that we make ourselves go through the pain of changing (ourselves, our environment, our circumstances).
So, now, it naturally follows that in order for us to finish what we start we must be in the knowledge and awareness that we are currently in pain and we must push ourselves all the way through a process so that we lessen future pain.
How do you do that?
How do you amplify the pain that you are in so that you make it a must to change?
It’s very simple. There’s only one strategy and it’s this: You must know WHY you want the results you say you want!
What does that mean, though? It means this. You have to know what it is that motivates you. In other words you must know your motivation.
How do you discover your motivation for change?
Again, by asking yourself: “Why do I want what I say that I want?”
And, here’s the secret to making this work.
You must ask yourself “WHY” at least 3 times in order to get to your deepest motivation. Otherwise, you will have a superficial reason (motivation), which is what usually happens. And, this superficial reason does not describe the current pain.
For example, let’s say that someone is 30 lbs overweight and they say they want to lose the extra weight.
If we ask that person: “Why do you want to lose 30 lbs?” they may say, “Because I want to look better.” Now, if we ask again, “Why do you want to look better?” the person may say, “Because I want to be more confident.” If we ask again, “Why do you want to be more confident?” the person may say something like, “I want to be able to meet people. I don’t want to be single anymore!”
Now we know the deep reason, the deep motivation, the deep answer to the question “WHY”.
Here’s the thing. It’s not that the person didn’t want to admit it in the very beginning. They might have never asked themselves these questions.
That’s what happens with most of us. We don’t ask why we want what we want – several times, and we start on new projects almost entirely powered by the excitement of the moment and a weak reason why, a weak motivation.
So, making full circle. If you want to start AND finish a project, next time ask yourself “Why do I want what I say that I want?” and ask at least 3 times.
And, at the end you don’t have something that describes a deep pain then don’t even bother starting the project – you are most likely abandon it half-way.
If the reason, the motivation is strong chances are you are going to finish what you start.