The incredible treasures I’m taking with me from Mission 1000. If I could go back I would still do it. A few days ago I shared in a post why decided to discontinue Mission 1000 (my commitment to gift one thousand 30-min coaching sessions in 500 days) after having gifted 305 coaching sessions. That post…
This is one of the TOUGHEST but also one of the most LIBERATING posts I’ve written so far! I’m breaking a big commitment today. And, I’m replacing it with a PROMISE. 10 months ago I committed to gifting 1000 (yes, one thousand) 30-min pro bono coaching sessions in 500 days. To date, I’ve gifted 305…
People-pleasing, Perfectionism, Social Anxiety – they have the same roots. Not only that, but they are all self-protective adaptations to an early threat of survival. I have been afflicted with all of them myself. And, a big part of my journey was to deal with them. Deal with them how? By accepting them as a…
Many people will spend their entire lives knowing that they are people-pleasers and inauthentic (disconnected from their core) while also doing what they can to avoid confronting that knowing. Being a people-pleaser is not shameful. It’s literally a survival strategy. It usually is a result of caregivers who instead of a sense of security instilled…
Most people make weak promises to themselves and others. And they wonder why life isn’t working the way they want. I want to point out why. I’ll keep this lean and to the point. There are two ways to move towards any desired outcome in life: From being INTERESTED From being COMMITTED The person who…
YOU WILL NEVER “GET” THERE You will never arrive! Not at least until you make a decision that you already HAVE ARRIVED! The BIGGEST DRAMA of the human being of today is this: Waiting to start living one day when…! One day “when I have [whatever it is that you think you need before you…
“Life (and people) should be this way.” There’s a lot of resistance and suffering embedded in the essence of this statement. “This is how it is – and it’s okay.” There’s true freedom and inner peace in this statement. Unfortunately, most people live their entire lives by the former… unconsciously, and not knowing that this…
Perfectionism is a compensation mechanism for not-enoughness (I’m not good enough) Perfectionism is a procrastination tactic Perfectionism is fueled by fear (of judgment, rejection) Perfectionism is an illusion (Nothing is static. Everything changes all the time. Therefore nothing can be perfect. It’s a physics law.) Perfectionism keeps you playing small Let’s get some things clear…
I was thinking today about the times in my life when I wanted something substantial, or I had a big goal, and it happened almost effortlessly. The times when things happened this effortless way are far less in my life than the times when… things I wanted didn’t happen, or things I wanted did happen,…