Many people will spend their entire lives knowing that they are people-pleasers and inauthentic (disconnected from their core) while also doing what they can to avoid confronting that knowing. Being a people-pleaser is not shameful. It’s literally a survival strategy. It usually is a result of caregivers who instead of a sense of security instilled…

Most people make weak promises to themselves and others. And they wonder why life isn’t working the way they want. I want to point out why. I’ll keep this lean and to the point. There are two ways to move towards any desired outcome in life: From being INTERESTED From being COMMITTED The person who…

YOU WILL NEVER “GET” THERE You will never arrive! Not at least until you make a decision that you already HAVE ARRIVED! The BIGGEST DRAMA of the human being of today is this: Waiting to start living one day when…! One day “when I have [whatever it is that you think you need before you…

“Life (and people) should be this way.” There’s a lot of resistance and suffering embedded in the essence of this statement. “This is how it is – and it’s okay.” There’s true freedom and inner peace in this statement. Unfortunately, most people live their entire lives by the former… unconsciously, and not knowing that this…

Perfectionism is a compensation mechanism for not-enoughness (I’m not good enough) Perfectionism is a procrastination tactic Perfectionism is fueled by fear (of judgment, rejection) Perfectionism is an illusion (Nothing is static. Everything changes all the time. Therefore nothing can be perfect. It’s a physics law.) Perfectionism keeps you playing small Let’s get some things clear…

I was thinking today about the times in my life when I wanted something substantial, or I had a big goal, and it happened almost effortlessly. The times when things happened this effortless way are far less in my life than the times when… things I wanted didn’t happen, or things I wanted did happen,…

A reminder about how deeply affected we are by the fear of rejection, the fear of not being accepted… I recently had a coaching conversation with an amazing individual. She said, “If I am different then they’ll judge me for being different, for not being like them.” I said that’s exactly why you want to…

[This is long. And, it’s a journal of sorts – for my own clarity and fear alchemy reasons] What I’m about to post below is very scary for me.. Because once I hit the “post” button there’s no way back! Here we go . . . A Mission that scares the heavens out of me:…

If you are in the role of powerfully influencing others (a coach, mentor, guide, intuitive)… The biggest work in your lifetime will be to learn to TAME YOUR EGO. It will be to learn to… Not interrupt others as they speak – and be fully complete and enough. Listen in full presence – and be…